"I'm on a diet."
"I'm counting calories."
"I'm counting carbs."
"I shouldn't eat that...oh ok!"
"I walked 1/2 a mile today, I deserve this milkshake."
"I've been really stressed out at work. So I deserve this bacon cheeseburger."
"It's my birthday, so I deserve this cake."
"It's summer, the school year was hard, so I deserve this ice cream."
"I'm trying to not eat that."
All our sayings; all the fickle commitments and poor excuses that we use to make ourselves feel better and argue with ourselves that what we're doing is ok. All the sayings that ultimately lead to failure. And they're not rare. We say all of these and more in some form or another. But we never realize what they're doing to us and our mindset, because as I've talked about many, many times before: it's all about your mindset.
If you're using these excuses and these self-arguments then your spiraling more and more into a hole of failure. People are always complaining that what they're doing "isn't working." But the truth is what we're thinking "isn't working," what we're thinking is bringing us towards, to, and over the edge of the cliff named FAILURE.
And there's that word again, failure. We hate it, hate when it happens to us, but we're causing this always. We're causing it, when it comes to food, because we cannot commit to positive lasting change. We cannot and most of the time will not change our perspective. Instead what is on the plate, what is on the shelf, or what is on the counter in front of us seems to be the only option available. It seems to be the only way up the mountain and ultimately the path that never actually reaches the top, because we can hardly ever see the other trails that truly reach the peak. We never realize that we need to take what may seem like the harder trails to the peak, because the journey is the reward and once we reach that peak we soon discover that there is always and always will be a higher peak.
It's a constant journey, like I have said many times, but along the journey we will lose our way and take trails that don't lead to the peak. But, that's where the change of perspective comes in, instead of seeing those incorrect path choices as failure, we need to see them as a lesson. A lesson that will ultimately bring us back to the truest mountain path.
But, most of the time, our society cannot see failure as a lesson, instead we see it as the end. "Oh that diet didn't work, I'm just going to go back to normal then." Back to the normal of cheeseburgers, pizzas, and ice cream. The "normal" of 2,000 calorie breakfasts piled high with processed food or even no breakfast at all, because we're "too busy." And that is where the obsession comes in.
Food to us, in this society, in this time, in this world, is quick to come by, quick to eat, and quick to gratify. It is a DRUG, no doubt about that and we are ADDICTS. We look at food as an easy way to happiness, comfort, and relaxation. It becomes a path that we take everyday towards that very same cliff named FAILURE. The sugar, bread, meat, eggs, cheese, processed food, color, feel, and of course taste reverts us back to children in a candy store where the menu looks almost as good as the food itself. We are obsessed with options, with choices and we almost always make the wrong ones.
But, why? That's the question isn't it? Why do we love the bad food so much? Why does the sugar and the bread and the fat hold us in its vice-like hold? You want to know why?
Because we let it. Because we are weak. Because we don't change our perspective. Since it's all about the mind, when the going gets tough what do you have to do? Well you have to readjust your perspective and reevaluate what your goals. Where your true and honest life is. Because once you can set off down and commit to the path that perpetually leads to the life that truly makes you happy, then the weight, the looks, the money, the vice, the ego, everything that's "important" in our society, becomes meaningless. Not that you let go, instead you commit to that positive lasting change.
How can we commit to that change though? Well there's a saying that I heard in the new USA show Mr. Robot. The main character, played by Rami Malek, is a hacker who is extremely socially awkward and has many issues. He speaks to you, the audience, as if you were in his head and once says this, "The Devil is at his strongest while we're looking the other way."
That statement seems very poignant for this conversation. When are we at our weakest when it comes to indulging in food and breaking commitments? When we are stressed, tired, overworked, lazy, or otherwise distracted. It happens when we are looking the other way, when "the Devil" steps in. And "the Devil" in this instance are those same processed, sugar filled, GMO developed, life threatening foods that we seem to oh love so much.
But if we can reevaluate the idea of love. If we can reevaluate our goals and the oath that we want to take to lead to our honest life. We will find that our love will shift. Instead of reaching for the hamburger we will reach for the veggie wrap.
But to do this you need to focus on "the Devil," acknowledge where he is and systematically choke him out. By focusing on what is important in your life and de-stressing it.
Will getting that raise, or that new car, or those extra hours at work really, truly make you happy? Will it? No, it won't. Those vapid ambitions will only leave you, in the end, dissatisfied. They won't complete you and when it comes down to it, won't allow you to focus on your health and making those committed decisions to change.
So get out there and fight that food "Devil," find him, and choke him. It's violent, but it's figurative. And yes it'll be hard, but change is always hard. If you can visualize this food obsession as a devil then you can fight it. You can break those accustomed, egotistical desires to eat for gratuity and find the right path up the mountain. You'll falter and you'll fail, but never stop. Always push on. Always use it as lessons to strive for your better. Don't fear failure, embrace it, because it's bound to happen and you can't change that. Always perservere. Commit.
To the peak and onto the next one!
Thank you always.
The journey, love it.